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Children grow up and make their own choices

How many parents have waited for the day when their child’s eyes would suddenly be opened, and like the prodigal, they will finally see the truth and change their ways? Mothers and fathers dearly love their kids, but unfortunately, things do not always go as planned and many difficult children have caused their parents much worry, sadness, and disappointment. It is easy to blame the parents, but I do not believe that all liability can be laid at their doorstep. Parents have the perfect opportunity to present constructive thinking, discipline and a sense of right and wrong into their children’s mind and spirit within the formative years, however, this does not always guarantee the child will continue in the direction they were pointed. We guide and provide for our children, but they have a mind of their own. So, how important is it to protect and guard the mind and spirit of a child? Many experts agree that the first six years of a child’s life is his or her most important years of mental, emotional and spiritual development. It is believed that the foundation that is laid within the individual’s conscience during this crucial period of time becomes the decision filter they will use for the rest of their life.

Does the concept of good parents producing good children always work? Through the years, I have talked with many broken-hearted parents that have wondered where they went wrong. In these times of trying to console, the scripture found in Proverbs 22:6, usually finds its way to the surface. “Train up a child in the way they should go, and when they are old, they will not depart from it.” This passage reminds the parent that if a good seed has been planted within the heart of the child, God’s living Word will eventually germinate and become manifested later in life. I’m sure many bewildered parents have been waiting a long time to see this miracle, and we could second guess and speculate forever, but I have come to the conclusion that when a person becomes an adult they simply choose what type of life they want to live. 

For those that have reflected on the past and seen where they have made mistakes, we can all ask God to forgive us, and He will. It is very important that we not continually blame ourselves for the choices someone else is making. The Lord is aware of the situation and is listening to our prayers and knows that we did the best we could at the time. He loves us and is filled with understanding and compassion. So, let us continue having faith and hope in His promises and remember, it is never too late to talk with our children and sincerely share our heart with them. There is nothing impossible with God and He can make a way where there seems to be no way. “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that you may be healed. The effectual (unceasing) fervent prayer of a righteous person accomplishes much” James 5:16. Contact Billy at billyhollandministries.com